TYL #24: Learning from Your Habits and Making Decisions Using Your Highest Priorities with Jenn Ostman
Written by Tracy on 19 Jul 2016
C.S. Lewis had many incredible quotes, but my favorite one is this:
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What? You, too? I thought I was the only one...'."
Our guest today, Jenn Ostman, is about to become your new best friend.
That's because this entire podcast of full of moments where you will think Jenn is sitting inside your brain, thinking your thoughts, and making your decisions for you. I don't think I've ever had a guest on the show who was so eloquently and accurately able to describe her current transitional phase in life and how she's grinding out the day to day while planning for the more ideal future. Her honesty and authenticity are both incredible and humbling.
She's brave enough to air out her journey for everyone to see, but most importantly, to learn from.
And not to learn what to do and what not to do. But to learn that it's ok. You are enough. Your choices don't have to look fancy on Facebook or envious on Instagram. They just need to align with who you really are and what you really want out of life. Right now. Not yesterday. Not when you were growing up. And certainly not when you were UIO (under the influence of others).
Jenn's courageous story and humorous honesty will help you put your life back into perspective and allow you to see how you're already so much closer to where you want to be than you think.
Without any further ado, I give you, Jenn Ostman!
Play by play:
4:00 Jenn’s dream job and how she got it
6:30 How Jenn realized that her dream job might not be everything she wanted it to be
8:30 Jenn’s journey from her dream job to her parents’ couch
10:00 What happens when you derive your identity from your work
12:00 How Jenn proved to herself that she made the hard, but right, decision for her
14:15 How to build a new identity when your job doesn’t cut it anymore
16:30 Getting perspective on your life when you’re stuck in the mode of comparing yourself to others
17:30 The difference between self-identity in the East and self-identity in the West
20:00 Jenn picks up her story with her cushy, cushy bridge job
20:30 Learning from complacency and finding something more
23:40 Finding the right job for the life you want to live right now
25:30 Walking the line between money and happiness—do we have to?
26:20 How Jenn put all the puzzle pieces together to find her new dream job
27:30 Mentors who helped Jenn discover her passion
29:30 Jenn proves that “nothing is ever wasted” with her own life
31:55 The #1 priority in Jenn’s life and how she honors it all the time
33:30 How to figure out your place within healthy relationships
34:20 A key thought that took Jenn YEARS to learn, but is truly foundational
35:50 The best answer to the “what about the starving kids in Africa” question
37:10 How to know if you’re chasing squirrels or following your intuition
38:40 Jenn’s method for ranking your priorities and maintaining consistency in life
43:55 Why examining your life is a sometimes scary but so necessary life practice
45:45 How Jenn used the Predictive Index to find out her true behaviors and motivations
50:15 Hot to start seeing your natural personality as a strength and asset if you haven’t done that before
59:15 Once you have all the puzzle pieces of life, how do you start to put them together
1:01:30 How to find an environment that allows you to thrive
1:02:40 Jenn’s major “adulting” realization and how it’s guiding her career decisions
1:05:30 What about when you have to put in your dues to get to where you want to go
1:06:00 What gets Jenn through the hard times and stuck feelings
1:07:20 How to look at life as an evolution of growth instead of a never-ending list of “theres” to get to
1:08:40 Jenn’s mom’s INCREDIBLE piece of advice and why you should tell it to yourself everyday
1:10:30 How I learned one of life’s greatest lessons in a confessional
1:11:15 The story of one of the greatest human beings I’ve ever met
1:13:45 How to embrace constant transformation by remembering that it’s never too late
1:15:00 How Jenn gets perspective on her life by remembering how teeny tiny she is
1:16:50 How to take your nature, nurture, and network and put it in the context of now
1:19:00 How to get out of the “all or nothing” mindset that will paralyze your life
1:23:00 How to let go of what other people think and honor where you are in your life
1:25:00 How to find your light at the end of the tunnel
1:27:00 The importance of setting deadlines for yourself
1:27:30 How I know Jenn will be an amazing inspiration for so many people
1:28:45 Jenn’s #1 piece of advice for you right now
1:30:10 Little love fest and mimosa time
1:30:30 Get in touch with Jenn at @jennostmanyoga
1:31:00 Get in touch with me @thetracytimm or facebook.com/tracytimmfan
1:31:20 Do what you were created for, now!